Find Common Ground

It’s been an incredible few weeks. I’m in the process of rebranding and coming up with a host of digital solutions for people who are interested in living a more empowered life. Amidst this chaotic process, I have been attending Commons church in Kensington, and I’m really enjoying it. There’s been a lot of value that come from the sermons, namely this quote really stood out to me:

“For [Christ] himself is our peace, who has made the two groups one and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of hostility” – Ephesians 2:14

I actually found myself in an argument with someone the other week, and I thought of this quote, all we were doing was focusing on our differences. The barrier had been put up.

In reading The Influential Mind, I understand that when people have contrasting views, one of the most powerful things you can do is find common ground; an outcome for the greater good. Finding common ground is an incredible way to dissolve the barrier and work together towards an objective or a goal.

So if you find yourself at odds with another, or even with yourself – find common ground. The synergy, the power of working together is a deep driver that comes from our social nature.

Journey

Be a Champion, Dust it Off!

“Sometimes it’s the journey that teaches you a lot about your destination” – Drake

It’s so cliche, we’ve all heard someone remind us that “it’s about the journey” while we are in the heat of an arduous moment.  In these moments, when facing adversity, that’s honestly the last piece of advice I’d like to hear.  I don’t know about you, but I can recall many times feeling a deep rumble of anger as the tectonic plates shifted under my skin.  Messages like this hit close to home for me and for everyone else because when someone says them, they hit us hard.

We can’t hear messages like this one because at one point our goals and intentions meant a lot to us, and now in these arduous moments, we’ve lost sight of them.  We are encapsulated by fear, anxiety, and darkness so we lose sight of the journey.  The good news is that there’s light.  You bet there’s light, there’s always been light.  You just have to remember how you got into this bloody mess in the first place.

Dust it Off … Champion

Losing sight of your goals in the heat of those moments doesn’t make you a failure.  In fact you should dust yourself off and congratulate yourself on embodying an emboldened state – where you had the guts to go for something you wanted.  Trying for something and failing isn’t always easy, in fact, it can be downright hurtful to both our ego and our real-world circumstances.

However our brains however are wired for reward when we act on something.  This means that just setting foot on a journey will give us most of the reward we need.  The shame and embarrassment is something we need to get over with by simply being more secure in ourselves.  As long as we handle the emotions of shame and embarrassment in the right way – through curiosity and what we can learn from our experiences – we will get back on the right track.

Regaining the Light

Getting the lights turned back on is actually quite easy, you just have to remember why you’re here to begin with.  Hardships can be brought on throughout anyone’s journey for a number of reasons.  And as I mentioned earlier, hearing that ‘advice’ in the heat of the moment doesn’t do much for us.  So I’m going to propose something crazy;

Journey

Try to anchor it back to why you’re here in the first place.  That’s right, think about the destination!  There I said it.  The destination is what got you fired up in the first place, it’s what motivated you to trudge through the middle of the desert in the blistering heat, or wherever you may find yourself.  As you strive onwards to things that are difficult and you find yourself facing overwhelming odds – revisit the destination.

SMART Goals

Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time Sensitive.  I get the feeling however that if this is a new adventure, something that really gets your blood pumping, you probably have no idea how to map out your journey to effectively reach your destination.  You’ll probably need some help as well.  So setting a good smart goal is really be out of the question – when taking on new endeavours.

I have a better suggestion, set an intention and really commit to it.  There’s a passage in “Great by Choice” where Jim Collins talks about the ’20-Mile March’.  He uses the example of travelling to the South Pole and he compares two explorers.  He portrays a vivid example of leadership and accomplishment of a great feat.  The explorer who made it was disciplined and committed to marching 20 miles everyday.  The other explorer made hay on good days and didn’t do much on bad days.  The fact is that there were more bad days than good, and that didn’t bode very well for the opportunistic explorer.

So that’s it, commit to 20 miles everyday, and don’t let your eyes off the prize, especially when things are tough.  That 20 miles is all that’s standing in the way of you and your goal.  It’s a daily ritual, habit, or routine that you need to stick to.  So all you have to do is find a way to enjoy the 20 mile march as much as possible, and reaching your goal will be a walk in the park.

Enjoy!